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Sunday, June 17, 2018

Erase the Stigma

Ya'll, I need to be super real with you and for an important reason. Mental health. We see things randomly about it. It flies up in the news when someone who "has it all" takes their own life. But other than that, we really don't think about it, but we should.

Definition of Anxiety: a nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks.

For as long as I can remember, I've had these out of body experiences that zap me of energy and leave me off balance. The most vivid one from my past I can remember was actually when I was 18, still in high school and visiting my mother. Ryan had called to ask me out, but that is an entirely different story! haha.

Anyways, fast forward to 2015 and very pregnant with Little #2. I was in class. It was the worse feeling of my life. I ended up in the ER because the attack made me not be able to feel this super active boxer inside of me. I thank Jesus that she was fine and they were able to figure out what I never knew, anxiety driven panic attacks.

Then I ended up with postpartum. It gripped me tightly. It was scary. For me, for my husband, for my babies, and for my friends who watched me sink and could do nothing.

FINALLY, I sought treatment. It wasn't easy. It wasn't an instant fix. It was many doctors appointments, decisions on if medication was a path I needed and if so, what kind and how much? It was finally giving in and seeing a therapist (who I still see 3 years later). It was acknowledging that as much as I forced myself out and doing things and as much as I prayed for Jesus to give my old self back, I was ignoring the help in front of my face.


Flood. Man on the roof of his house
Kind of like this story. The man tells the boat he asked Jesus to safe him and he has faith, so when he gets to Heaven and asks Jesus, "I had faith, why didn't you save me?" Jesus tells him he sent it in multiple forms and it was ignored.

Credit: https://truthbook.com/stories/funny-god/the-drowning-man



Sometimes life is tough. Okay, it's always tough, but we deal with what we're dealt. And metal illness is not something to be ashamed over. Seeking treatment should not be embarrassing. Seeking out a friend or someone with experience in the area to just vent is 100% okay.

Unfortunately. I have had those thoughts about not being in this world. I've had those thoughts of being gone and things would be easier. But thankfully, I have a support system. I have come to learn when things get too dark and seek immediate help. I know that that's not fair to my friends, my loved ones, my husband, my kids, and it's not fair to me. I will live my best life. I will overcome.

This week has been hard, but it won't get me down. It won't be easy. It won't be pretty. It won't be pain free, but I will overcome the nasty effects that anxiety plagues upon my life.

I really have no idea what the point of this post is, other than maybe my own little form of therapy. Sometimes I just let my fingers fly and end up with something. I hardly ever read them over because that takes away from how it helps me. Honestly, I have like 2 author friends that I share things with and usually no one else sees the words. So, there's probably lots of error in this message, but that grammatical error is not something I'm worried about for a little blog post.

But it's time to erase this stigma for mental health awareness. It's time for people to be able to seek out help with out shame. It's time for people to stop saying, "get some fresh air" or "You have prayed to God hard enough or trusted him enough." It's time for it to end.

My Jesus tells me he loves me no matter what and He has sent me to this world to share that love without judgement. If you're struggling with any form of mental illness, please please please do what's best for you and seek help. If you need someone to talk to, find someone you trust. If you have no one come talk to me. I'm a fantastic listener and sometimes that's just what we need. Don't suffer alone. You have a support team behind you, even when the days feel long and never ending.

You've got this. You can and will win. Erase The Stigma. Live your best life.





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Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Rumor Has It (Real Love #4) by Jessica Lemmon

Rumor Has It by Jessica Lemmon is a part of her Real Love series. This is the first book of the series I have read and I've been seriously missing out if the rest are this good.

This book goes into the things that we see in real relationships. The fears we get about ourselves and what the other person could think. It takes a look into the characters and no matter how successful they may become they still have the feelings of inadequacy and are afraid it will ruin them for the other person.

That's life and that fact that Lemmon could bring it to us in such a quirky, steamy, and laughable story if the best kind of story!

When you mix an ex-football star/bad boy with a workaholic journalist you can have quite a newsworthy story. ;)

https://amzn.to/2k66lKZ

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

The Cleaner by Kiersten Modglin

I love romantic suspense! I love angst and suspense stories are usually guaranteed to give me that and who doesn't love a little bit of sweetness on the side?

Anyways, when I heard about The Cleaner, I was intrigued and then I saw the cover and knew I had to read it! It looked too good and sounded fantastic!

The thing about this story is Modglin, doesn't just give you the big suspenseful moment that turns the plot of the story differently then you had expected. She gives you a few of those moments.

I cannot tell you how many times I started yelling at my kindle because I couldn't believe what happened next!

And the romantic part was so sweet. This would be considered more of a "clean" romance, but trust me, you still want to read it.

The ins and outs, ups and downs, and total unpredictable-ness of this book will have you swooning, cursing, crying, and wondering how you've missed out on more stories like this in your life!

Complicated Parts (Complicated Parts Duet Book 1) by Ashley Jade

Ashley Jade has a way of making the simplest thing sound more elegant and have more meaning with the way she spins words into stories. Not that Preston and Kit's story is simple at all, because it's not. In fact, the title, Complicated Parts fits their story to a T!

Preston and Kit's characters are perfectly imperfect. There is no secret to the disaster their lives are and their part in making them that way. Yes, there were other factors, but the two don't let themselves go without blame.

I have loved these two since Complicated Hearts came out by Ashley Jade last year. But what can I say, I love the broken characters.

When it comes to books, I always love them more when I can relate better and Kit and I relate so much it's almost scary. No, not because of our sexuality or anything, but our hearts. Kit is a softy a heart and just wants to be loved. She puts her heart on the line over and over again because she has so much faith in people. But then when you cross her friends, she brings out the takes-no-sh*t kinda girl and will tear you to shreds. I get her and I feel for her.

The ending of part one nearly gutted me. It broke my heart on so many levels. You connect with these characters so much that it makes it more real.

I cannot wait for the next installment and to see how Kit and Preston's story spins.


Love in C Minor (Backroads Duet Book 1) by Mindy Michelle (Mindy Hayes & Michelle Miller)

I've bought many books by this duo, ones written together and separately, but had yet to read one until Love in C Minor. Based on this book alone, I am heavily missing out on some fantastic stories.

I'm not a huge fan of duets, but I always seem to fund myself reading them. Love in C Minor is unlike any other duet I have read. The intensity behind the characters, the love behind them and everything in between.

This story was beautifully written and portrayed. Honestly, I was doubting how it could be a duet and then BAM! Just like in life a wrench was thrown in and threw all of the beauty into turmoil and made you want to throw your book.

And now I have to wait patiently for book 2. Eek. I cannot wait!

https://amzn.to/2Il7I6K

El Malo by K Webster

This book was soooooo good and the ending was 100% unpredictable!

I loved the workings of this story! The way the heroine shouldn't fall for the (not-so-much) hero and left you trying to figure out how it could possibly work if they were to end up together.

The forbidden-ess factor, the chemistry, the overall story was addicting and unforgettable!


https://amzn.to/2IoeRiO

Bro Code by Kendall Ryan

I have been reading Kendall Ryan for awhile now. She used to have the perfect short stories to read in between series or if you needed just a quick read. However, she has been going more in depth with with her stories and I have been thoroughly impressed each time.

With that being said, Bro Code, is hands down my favorite and will be hard for the author to top this one. I loved the family dynamic and the realness between the characters.

I loved that the brother and sister relationship was so strong and yet real at the same time and even though the parents had their moments, the children didn't let it slide about what kind of parents they were.

And the friendships were solid and obvious throughout the book.

Overall a fantastic story that I absolutely fell in love with and will forever hold as the top level for Kendall Ryan and the rest of her books!

https://amzn.to/2Ikflun